Help & Support for Men

Help and Support for men

Men’s Advice Line: confidential helpline for men experiencing domestic violence from a partner or ex-partner (or from other family members). We help by: giving you time to tell your story; offering emotional support; providing practical advice; signposting you to other services for specialist help

Our confidential helpline is available for all men across the UK suffering from domestic violence or domestic abuse by their current or former wife or partner (including same-sex partner). This can range from actual violence or object throwing to mental abuse such as constant bullying or constant insults. We provide both emotional support and practical information.

At Refuge, we believe that everybody has the right to a life free from violence. Our professional staff are highly trained to work with everyone experiencing domestic abuse, including heterosexual, gay, bisexual and transgender men. No-one deserves to be abused by the person they love. Everyone has the right to be respected and live in safety. It is important to remember that you are not alone, the abuse is not your fault and there are people who can help you. Refuge runs a number of outreach and independent advocacy services for male victims of domestic violence across the country.

The Men’s Advice Line is a confidential helpline, email and webchat service for male victims of domestic violence and those supporting them. If you are a man experiencing domestic violence, get in touch and we will be happy to help. Friends and family members of male victims, as well as frontline workers are also welcome to contact us for information, advice and support.

Domestic violence, also called domestic abuse, includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse in couple relationships or between family members. Domestic violence can happen against women and against men, and anybody can be an abuser.

Is it different for men? There are both similarities and differences. Some of the responses to violence from a partner are the same. Being abused by somebody you love and trust can be confusing and bewildering, and any victim whether male or female may wonder if it’s their fault. The emotions they feel are going to be similar whether they are male or female, but it can be harder for men to cope with the emotional impact of domestic abuse. Admitting to being abused is difficult for anybody, but men often don’t have the social networks in place to easily tell a friend or family member. When guys go down the pub it is not necessarily for a chat. Phone lines, like the Men’s Advice Line, (MALE) will give them the opportunity to talk in confidence.

Help, support and advice is available to male victims of abuse at the One Stop Shops which are held in Dartford, Gravesham, Maidstone, Medway, Sevenoaks, Tonbridge & Malling and Tunbridge Wells.  The Kent Domestic Abuse Service (KDAC) Independent Domestic Violence Advisors (IDVA) will also support high risk victims of domestic abuse.   For this service please contact the KDAC IDVA Helpline on 07926 842 183.

MALE Helpline

Opening hours: Monday – Friday  9.00 am – 5.00 pm

The MALE helpline provides a range of services aimed primarily

at men experiencing domestic abuse from their partner 0808 801 0327

or email